isK Drm Aqy
“qlwk”
.gurU ipAwirE,
vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw vwihgurU jI kI Pqih]
Aj kl dy smwj ivc qlwk Awm islislw bxdw jw irhw hY[
isK smwj vI ies smwjk burweI qoN nhI b`c sikAw Aqy idnoo-idn ieh smwjk burweI
vDdI nzr Aw rhI hY[
“s`cIAW
srkwrW” sRI gurU gMRQ swihb jI mhwrwj jI dI hzUrI ivc
AnMd kwrj krvwaux qoN bwAd, is`K ivAwhk joVy ies jIvn-iekrwr qy jIvn swQ qoN B`jdy
Awm vyKy jw rhy hn! vyKw-vyKI ieh vyG vDdw jw irhw hY[ ijQy ijQy is`K BweIcwrw
sMswr ivc vsdw hY, auQy auQy ieh smwjk burweI nwl hI vyKI jw rhI hY[ ijQy is`K
prvwr cotI dIAW qy isKrW dIAW kdrW-kImqW nMU inBwaudy Awey hn qy bhuq lok inBw
vI rhy hn, auQy Aj “qlwk” dI ieh smwjk burweI vI swfy smwj ivc bhulqw ivc PYlI
nzr Aw rhI hY[
isK Drm ivc koeI qlwk nhI huMdw, nw hI AwigAw idqI geI
hY qy nw hI isK Drm “qlwk” nMU prvwx krdw hY[ sRI gurU gRMQ swihb jI dI sm`ucI bwxI ivc iek vwrI vI “qlwk” Sbd nhI
vriqAw igAw[ jy is`K Drm ivc qlwk prvwx kIqw igAw huMdw qW, mwP krnw, Swied
iek gurm`q ivc “qlwk kwrj” dI vI rsm hoxI sI!
qlwk dI siQqI dy phuMcx dy keI kwrn huMdyy hn[ aunW
ivcoN kuJ kwrn jwiez ho vI skdy hn! aunW siQqIAW ivc vI kuJ auprwly kIqy jw skdy
hn qy krny bxdy vI hn[ loVINdI qbdIlI ilAwaux nwl irSqy mzbUq ho jWdy hn qy peIAW
ivQW dUr ho skdIAW hn[ kuJ kwrn bhuq mmUlI vI hMudy hn ijnHW krky qlwk vl jwxW
nw hI SoBdw hY sgoN by-loVw vI huMdw hY[ jy hr irSqy nMU mzbUq, cMgw qy vDyry
suKdweI bxwaux nMU iek idlcsp cuxOqI smJ ky, ies qy kMm kIqw jwvy, auprwly kIqy
jWx qW swfw smwj, swfy prvwr, swfIAW prvwrk kdrW kImqW ikqy dIAW ikqy isKrW qy phMuc
jwx!
b`icAW dw Biv`K, mwipAW dI eykqw qy ipAwr qy inrBr
hMudw hY Aqy prvwrk eykqw qy KVw hY[ AwiKAw igAw hY ik ijhVy b`cy iek sohxy
hsdy, vsdy prvwr ivc v`fy huMdy hn auh BivK ivc Awp vI cMgy prvwr nMU auswrn dI
izAwdw mwhrqw, sihj suBwie hI rKdy hn! ies dy ault ijhVy b`cy Awp tu`ty hoey
prvwr ivc v`fy hMudy hn, auhnW dw Awpxw prvwr Awaux vwly smyN ivc iesy siQqI
ivcoN lMGx dI ikqy izAwdw sMBwvnw rKdw hY! ieh Koj swieMsdwnW Aqy mwhr KojIAW
vloN ho cukI hY Aqy AMkiVAW Anuswr ieh iek prvwxk scweI hY[
AwE
ivcwrIey, ik jdoN iksy ivAwhk joVy (married
couple) dI Ax-bx ho
jwvy jW swfy smwj dw kI rol hoxw cwhIdw hY! AsI ieh lyK
gurm`q Anuswr ivcwrWgy ikau ik AsI isK Drm Aqy AnMd kwrj bwry gl kr rhy hW[
vYsy bhuq swry ivcwr bVy sDwrn hox krky ikqy vI vrqoN ivc ilAwey jw skdy hn,
Bwv zrUrI nhI ik joVw XW prvwr is`K Drm nwl sMbMDq hI hovy! koeI vI prvwr, iksy
vI Drm nwl sMbMD rKx vwlw hovy, ienHW jugqIAW rwhI lwB auTw skdw hY[
ies qoN pihlW ik AsI ivAwhk jIvn ivc bxy iksy Ax-bx
XW qlwk vwly islisly dI gl ivsQwr nwl krIey, AwE ies gl vl iDAwn dyeIey ik
ivAwh Bwv AnMd kwrj vyly isiKAw dyx dI kI AihmIAq hY!
kuJ swl XW kih leIey iek dhwky XW do dhwikAW pihlW
AnMd kwrj ivc lwvW qoN auprMq isiKAw idqI jWdI sI[ies ivc kuJ kImqI glW
smJweIAW qy dsIAW jWdIAW sn[ mYnMU Awpxw bcpn Xwd hY jdoN myry dwdw jI, pRo:
krqwr isMG jI (hoiSAwrpur vwly) iksy nw iksy AnMd kwrj ivc isiKAw idMdy huMdy
sn[ iek Kws izkr sWJw krnw cwhuMdw hW[ cMfIgV ivc iek auGy prvwr dy bicAW dy
AnMd kwrj ivc myry dwdw jI ny isiKAw idqI[ ivAwhy jwx vwly joVy (couple) Aqy
sMgq nMU sMboDn krdy hoey ieh glW khIAW, ijs dw Bwv kuJ hyT ilKy vyrvy vwlw hY[
“ bIbw jI,
Aj qoN bwAd Awpxy mwipAW dy nwl nwl Awpxy s`s-suhrw swihb nMU Awpxy hI mwpy
smJxw!” ieh gl bVy pRBwvSwlI qrIky nwl dwdw jI suxw rhy sn[ ieqnI
ku gl, myry iKAwl ivc sB ny ikqy hor vI suxI hovygIy pr ijhVI AglI gl dwdwjI ny
ies dy nwl hI joV ky khI auuh dws ny ikqy hor hux q`k nhI suxI!
auh ieh sI ik “kwkw
jI, Aj qoN bwAd Awp jI ny vI Awpxy s`s-shurw swihb nMU Awpxy hI mwpy smJxw hY!
qy ausy qrW hI vrqxw hY ijvy Awpxy mwipAW nwl vrqIdw hY!” ieh gl dwdw jI ny
aus qoN vI vD pRBwvSwlI qrIky nwl “kwkw jI” nMU sMboDn kridAW khI!
ikqnIAW sohxIAW Aqy suKdweI glW dwdw jI ny sWJIAW
krnIAW AnMd kwrjW ivc! aunHW dw ieh lYkcr mYN jdoN d`s ku swl dw hovWgw, aus vyly
suixAw sI[ Aj q`k, aunHW dI ieh gl, dws nMU Xwd hY qy pMFwl dw auh idRS vI ijs
ivc suSoBq sMgq, sRI gurU gRMQ swihb jI dI hzUrI ivc ieh gl sux rhI sI[
smW kuJ Agy viDAw[ kuJ vIrW XW prvwrW ny dwdw jI nMU
ieh kihxw ik isiKAW dyx dI kI loV hY? Aj kl dy b`cy bVy isAwxy hn, sB jwxdy hn[
qusI isiKAw nw idAw kro! ies dI kI loV hY?
dwdw jI, pRo krqwr isMG jI, Political Science dy
pRoPYsr sn[ aunHW bVw sohxw qy FukvW jvwb dyxw ies gl dw! Awp jI ny kihxw ik
jdoN iksy dyS dw pRDwn mMqrI, dyS dy pRDwn mMqrI bxn ligAW sON cukdw hY, kI auh
aus vyly b`cw XW “inAwxW” huMdw hY? kI aus nMU pqw nhI huMdw ik aus dIAW kI kI
izMmyvwrIAW hn? aus nMU sB kuJ pqw hox dy bwvjUd vI sON cukxI pYNdI hY[ jy iek
pRDwn mMqrI nMU vI AwpxI Position qy bYTx ligAW sON cukxI pYNdI hY qW
AsI Pyr kOx hW? swnMU vI isiKAw dyxI qy suxnI AqI zrUrI hY[ swnMU vI h`k nhI ik
ibnW gRihsqI jIvn dIAW jugqIAW suixAW gRihsqI jIvn ivc pRvyS krIey[ ikqnw
ipAwrw Logic
aunHW ny sWJw krnw!
ieh ipCokV vyKdy qy mwxdy hoey, myrI smJ Anuswr Aj kl
vI Aqy Awaux vwly AnMd kwrjW ivc vI, ieh isiKAw dyx dw pRogrwm hoxw cwhIdw hY[
siqguru imlY q
gurmiq pweIAY swkq bwjI hwrI jIau ]3]
(pMnw 597, rwg
soriT, pw:1)
Awau Awpxy ivSy vl Agy ivcwr vDweIey!
jdoN iksy joVy, Bwv pqI/ pqnI dI
ikqy Axbx ho jwvy qW kI krnw bxdw hY[ vYsy qW pqI-pqnI dw Awpxw hI Prz hY, ik
iek dUsry nwl gl-bwq rwhIN lgwqwr sWJ bxweI rKx qy loVINdI Gwt nMU pUrw krn dy
Xqn Awpxw Sugl, SOk, Prz Aqy izMmyvwrI smJx!
pr keI vwrI gl iksy vI kwrn krky A`gy
inkl jWdI hY[ Kws kr Aj kl dy mhOl ivc qW dyKw dyKI qlwk hoxy SuRrU ho gey hn[
sRI gurU gRMQ swihb jI dI hzUrI ivc lwvW lY ky, jIvn swQ inBwaux dw pRx krky XW
smJ ky, keI keI swlW bwAd vI qlwk huMdy Awm vyKy jWdy hn[ ieh iek scweI hY ik
sRI gurU gRMQ swihb jI dI hzUrI ivc hoey hzwrW hI AnMd kwrj ipCly swlW ivc sMswr
Br dIAW AdwlqW ivc qoVy gey hn qy ieh islislw jwrI hY[ iek pwsy AsI ipAwr nwl sRI gurU gRMQ swihb jI nMU s`cIAW srkwrW kih ky
siqkwr krdy hW qy dUjy pwsy aunHW dy hzUrI ivc hoey AnMd kwrn nMU qoVn ligAW
r`qw vI pRhyz nhI krdy! ieh swfI qrsXog qy hwso-hIxI hwlq bxI peI hY[
kI swfy isK smwj dw ies ivc koeI rol
bxdw hY? jy bxdw hY qW kI? swnMU siqgurW ny is`K bxwieAw hY jo dUijAW dy
duK-suK ivc sWJ krdw hoieAw kuJ nw kuJ auprwlw krdw hI rihMdw hY[
isK dw syllabus smwjk qOr qy ies pRkwr hY:
Awie imlu gurisK
Awie imlu qU myry gurU ky ipAwry ] rhwau ]
pr Awm vyKx ivc ieh Awaudw hY ik qlwk
q`k phMucI hoeI siQqI ivc koeI ivrlw hI irSqydwr XW dosq cMgw rol inBwaudw hY
XW inBwaux dI soc rKdw hY[ sB ies qrIky
nwl pwsw v`ty nzr Awaudy hn ijvy ieh joVy nMU pCwxdy hI nw hox! jwxdy vI nw
hox! ieh ikqnI APsos vwlI g`l hY Aqy iek s`cy idAwnqdwrI vwly isK dI
pirBwSw qoN ikqy duryfy mihsUs huMdI hY[
“ieh ienHw dw Awpxw mslw hY!”, “AsI kI lYxw?”, “swnMU kI?”, “Agly dy Gr
bYsMqr dyvqw AwieAw hY, Awaux idau!” ….ieQoN q`k ik bhuq swry lok qW kljug dI cl rhI ruq dy ADIn ho ky ieh vI
socdy hoxgy “ik cMgw hoieAw! ienHW dw Gr
auJVn idau!” mwP krnw, ieh swfy smwj dIAW Aj kl dIAW scweIAW hn, koeI
AqkQnIAW nhIN hn!
ijhVy lok ivAwh dy smyN qy qsvIrW
iKcvwaudy nhI sn Qkdy, auh Aj lBdy hI nhI ik ikQy jw lu`ky hn, ausy qrW ijvy
gvwcy dI qlwS krnI pvy qy gvwicAw hoieAw lBy hI nw! ieQoN qk ik ijnHw ny AnMd
kwrj ivc hwzrI vI BrI huMdI hY, auh vI lw-pqw hI ho jWdy hn Xw Pyr Swied lMBy
smyN leI ikqy CutI qy qur gey huMdy pRqIq huMdy hn!
swfy Dwrmk qbky ivc vI ieh glW Awm
hI vyKIAw jWdIAW hn[ smwjk izMmyvwrIAW auQy vI koeI ivrlw hI smJdw hY[ sB lok
rUhwnIAq dw fMkw qW vjwaudy hn pr ienswnIAq dI cwl koeI ivrlw hI cldw hY[ ijvyN
purwqn simAW ivc gurU swihb jI dw is`DW nwl vwrqwlwp bwry XW aus smyN dy is`DW
dy vqIry bwry, BweI swihb BweI gurdws jI Purmwaudy hn, auh hI vrqwrw, Aj dw isK
Dwrmk BweIcwrw vI kridAW nzr Aw irhw hY:
isD Cip bYTy prbqI
kauxu jgiqR kau pwir auqwrw]
swfI puSwk qW isMGW XW isKW vwlI hY
pr model, mwP krnw jI, “isDW” vwlw hI bixAw
hoieAw nzr Aw irhw hY[ jy nMbr dyxy hox qW clo 90% kih leIey ik isDW vwlw hI sB isKW dw vqIrw bixAw nzr AwauNdw
hY[ Prk ieqnW hI hY ik “is`D” prbqW vwly AsQwnW qy jw ky smwj qoN indifferent ho jWdy sI qy AsI Ajoky isK, SihrW ivc rihMdy hoey hI, dUsirAW
pRqI ieh indifference DwrI qy ApxweI bYTy
hW[
AweIey muV gurmq dy ivSy qy, ieh
gurmq dI cwl nhI! gurm`q eykqw isKwaudI hY!
lokW nMU, prvwrW nMU, jQybMdIAW nMU iekiTAW krnw gurm`q Awpxw Prz qy
izMmyvwrI smJdI hY qy ies dy pUirAW hox au~qy Awpxy DMn-Bwg mihsUs krdI hY[
hWjI, gurmq ieh isKwaudI hY
ieho ivcolw Awix imlwvY ]
gurm`q ies cwl dI pujwrI hY, ies cwl
nMU hr iksm dy JgVy leI vrqdI hY[ kI cwl hY jI, auh?
hoie iekqR imlhu
myry BweI duibDw dUir krhu ilv lwie ]
hir nwmY ky hovhu joVI gurmuiK bYshu sPw ivCwie ]1]
hir nwmY ky hovhu joVI gurmuiK bYshu sPw ivCwie ]1]
ies cwl nMU ApxwieAW qy AmlI qOr qy
vrqidAW, sB glW dw hl inkl AwauNdw hY[ gurm`q sB nMU iek prvwr smJdI hoeI eykqw
dw auprwlw krnw Awpxw Prz smJdI hY:
ibliC ibnod Awnµd
suK mwxhu Kwie jIvhu isK prvwr ]1]
gurm`q, Awpxy ivhVy ivc hoey AnMd
kwrj dy hr pihlU Aqy p`K nMU pUrw huMdw vyKxw vI AwpxI izMmyvwrI smJdI hY Aqy
iesy ivc hI ies dI KuSI hY[
gurm`q ivc “Awpxw” prvwr dw sMDrB
bhuuq ivSwl qy bhuq vfw hY[ auQy “Awpxw” prvwr dw cOigrdw bhuq vfw huMdw hY[
gurmq swnMU sB isKW nMU prvwr dw dwierw ieh d`s rhI hY:
“ijsu nwmu irdY iqsu vf prvwrw ]”
ienHW ivcwrW rwhI swnMU ies gl dw
igAwn ho irhw hY ik swnMU sB isK prvwrW nMU Aqy ies qoN vI Agy sB jgq nMU Awpxw
hI prvwr smJdw cwhIdw hY[ siqgurW ny qW AYlwn krky kih hI idqw ik aunW dw prvwr
kOx hY:
suKI bsY moro
pirvwrw ]syvk is`K sBY krqwrw ]2]
ienHw gurmq ivcwrW nMU Apxwaudy
hoey, sB nMU iek prvwr smJdy hoey AwE Awpxy Prz pihcwxIey!
Industry circles ivc ieh concept Awm pRclq hn:
·
Third Party peace-making interventions
·
Conflict resolutions
ieQoN qk ik goirAW XW iesweIAW dy
smwj ivc Marriage Restoration XW Marriage Reconciliation concept Awm pRclq vyKy jWdy hn[ pr swfw isK smwj ienHW glW qoN by-iPkr hoieAw qy
AxgihlI vrqdw, rswql vl ruiVAw jw irhw hY[ loV hY Awpxy isK smwj ivc ienHW
syvwvW nMU pRclq krn dI!
kuJ hyT ilKy ivcwr sMgq dy ivcwr gocry
hwzr hn[ ienHw ivcwrW (ideas / suggestions) dI implementation krn nwl swfy smwj ivc bhuq vfw suDwr Aw skdw hY[ ies swfw Brosw hY jI!
1)
irSqydwrW dw rol XW Prz: guris`KI Anuswr jdoN koeI Gr ivc sm`isAw Aw jWdI hY qW kdrW-kImqW nMU
mu`K rKidAW qy idAwnqdwrI nMU vrqidAW, Gr dy sMbMDq irSqydwrW nMU, Kws krky jo
QoVI vfI aumr Aqy qjrby vwly hox, smisAwvW nMU h`l krnw cwhIdw hY[AYsw krn nwl
irSqydwrW dI gurisKI bwry smJ qy soJI action ivc AwauNdI nzr AwvygI Aqy aunHW irSqydwrW dI vifAweI vI pRgt hovygI[
BwvyN swrw isK BweIcwrw iek prvwr hY pr GrylU muidAW nMU muK rKidAW, irSqydwrW
dw Prz bxdw hY ik joVy nMU iekiTAW ibTw ky aunW nwl gl bwq krn Aqy aunHW dIAW problems nMU smJdy hoey aunHW dI mdd krn[ ieh kyvl Prz jI nhI smiJAw
jWxw cwhIdw sgoN izMmyvwrI vI smJxI cwhIdI hY[
pr dyKx ivc Awaudw hY, ik ieh izMmyvwrI koeI ivrlw hI irSqydwr inBwaudw
hY jo “smwjk guris`KI” dI smJ rKdw hovy qy Awpxy PrzW nMU pUirAW krnw Drm dw
AMg smJdw hovy!
2)
dosqW/ imqrW dw Prz: ieh vI vyKx ivc Awaudw hY ik jdoN ivAwhk joVw iksy Ax-bx dw iSkwr ho
jwvy qW bhuqy “im`qr / dosq” ikqy dUr hI B`j jwdy hn[ koeI AwpxI bxdI izMmyvwrI
nhI smJdw qy pCwxdw! ienHW mOikAW qy ivcoly dI AiqAMq loV huMdI hY[jdoN koeI
qIjI cMgI inrp`K iDr ivc Aw jwvy qW auh bhuq sohxw qy cMgw rol inBwA skdI huMdI
hY qy ivAwhk joVy nMU Pyr iek`iTAW krn dI SkqI rKdI hY[
cMgy Aqy AslI dosq / im`qr bhuq cMgI syD dy skdy huMdy hn qy ipAwr Aqy
hwsy-Kyfy ivc hI joVy nUM iek`iTAW krn ivc bhuq sohxw rol inBw skdy hn[
iksy dy kMm Awauxw, iehI s`cI im`qrqw dI inSwnI hY[
“suK mY Awin bhuqu imil bYTq rhq chU idis GyrY
]”
ieh vrqwrw qW jgq ivc Awm vyKx nMU imldw hI hY pr
jnm mrx duhhU mih nwhI jn praupkwrI Awey ]
XW Pyr
mÚ 5 ]
ijn@w idsMdiVAw durmiq vM\Y imqR AswfVy syeI ]
hau FUFydI jgu sbwieAw jn nwnk ivrly kyeI ]2]
ijn@w idsMdiVAw durmiq vM\Y imqR AswfVy syeI ]
hau FUFydI jgu sbwieAw jn nwnk ivrly kyeI ]2]
vwly gurisK, BweI, mIq, dosq ijnHW nMU vyK ky qlwk vwlI Bwvnw, joVy
ivcoN Awpxy Awp hI iqAwgI jwvy, AYsy gurisK lBxy hI pYNdy hn qy ivrly huMdy hn[pr
vD qoN vD iek dUjy dI shwieqw krnI qy kMm Awauxw cwhIdw hY[ imqrW dw rol bhuq
Aihm hY jo imqrW nMU inBwauxw cwhIdw hY[
3)
prcwrk vIrW dw rol: isK Drm ivc qlwk dI AwigAw nw hox krky Aqy AnMd kwrj dI rsm Awm qOr qy
prcwrkW vloN inBweI jwx krky, qlwk jW qlwk vl vDdI qor nMU rokxw, sulJwauxw,
nyk Aqy lwiek prcwrkW dw vI Prz Aqy izMmyvwrI hY[
Dwrmk Kyqr ivc hox krky, prcwrk Awm qOr qy Awm bMidAW qoN izAwdw igAwn
rKdy hn qy ies krky qlwk nMU rokx ivc bhuq izAwdw Aqy vDIAw rol inBw skdy hn[
isK prvwrW ivc qlwk nMU rokx leI hr isK prcwrk nUM auqSwhq rihxw cwhIdw
hY qy AwpxI izMmyvwrI smJxI cwhIdI hY[
AwE, ies lyK dI AKIr ivc ieh vI ivcwr leIey ik iek ivcoly (Bwv
negotiator) dw kI rol hY Aqy aus ivc ikhVy ikhVy
gux hoxy cwhIdy hn!
muK qOr qy iek ivcoly dy XW ivcoligrI kr rhI tIm dy, swfI smJ Anuswr, 3
Aihm gux XW SrqW hoxIAW zrUrI hn[ AwE, ivcwrIey ik ivcoilAW ivc ikhVy 3 gux
hoxy zrUrI hn[
1)
ivcolw (XW
ivcoligrI kr rhI tIm) inrp`K hovy Aqy idAwnqdwrI Anuswr ivAwhk joVy nMU muV
iekiTAW krn dw idlI cwhvwn hovy[ ies ivc nwl ieh kihxw vI auicq hY ik ieh swry
kwrj leI ivcolw auqSwhq hovy qy ies cwA nwl BirAw hovy ik vwihgurU jI imhr krx
qy ieh joVw muV iek`iTAW ho jwvy[ Bwvnw Aqy cwA qoN ibnw iksy vI kwrj dI sPlqw
nhI iml skdI!
2)
jdoN vI koeI qlwk
dy nyVy siQqI phuMcI hovy qW ieh suBwvk hY ik donW iDrW dIAW iek dUjy pRqI AwpxIAW
AwpxIAW iSkwieqW huMdIAW hn[ ienHW nMU sulJwauxw Aiq lwzmI huMdw hY[ivcoligrI
krn dw ieh lwB huMdw hY ik pqI qy pqnI Awpxw Awpxw guBwr / iSkwieqW / issues / mu`dy iksy ivcoly nMU ds skdy hn[ jy ivcolw hovy hI nw qW
Pyr qW qlwk vwly pwsy gl jw hI rhI huMdI hY ijs nMU rokxw hI qW ivcoly dw rol
hY Aqy izkr kIqw jw irhw hY[
ivcoly dw ieh dUjw vfw gux Aqy loV hY ik auh pqI
pqnI dy iekiTAW krn ivc, jo donW dIAW iSkwieqW Aqy issues hn, aunHw nMU suxy qy aunHW dw hl lBy!
audwrhx dy qOr qy mMn leIey ik iksy qlwk nMU
rokx ivc iek ivcolw rol inBw irhw hY[donW pqI pqnI nMUU AwpxI AwpxI iSkwieq iek
sUcI (list) ivc ilKx dI
ihdwieq kIqI jw skdI hY[ donW dIAW sUcIAW (lists) ivcoN iek iek gl nMU, Bwv iek iek point nMU, ivcolw XW ivcoligrI kr rhI team, suxy, sulJwvy, Aqy Xog PYslw suxwauNdI, share krdI hoeI Agy vDdI jwvy[
“hWjI Point # 7, BYxjI ieQy qusI glq ho! swfy iKAwl ivc ieh gl vIrjI / BwjI / BweI
swihb jI dI (Bwv husband dI ) TIk hY[ ikau jI (tIm dy bwkI members dw opinion lYNdy hoey…) kI ivcwr hY Awp sB dw?” iesy pRkwr tIm dy hor pRymI ies gl
dw Awpxw ivcwr idMdy hoey joVy nMU ipAwr nwl mnwauNdy hoey Agy vDI clx!
“clo jI, Agly point qy gl krdy hW….point # 8….myry iKAwl ivc vIrjI qusI ieQy glq ho, AsI BYxjI vl (Bwv wife vl) hW ies point qy[ ikau ipAwirE, kI ivcwr Awp sB dw (tIm dy bwkI sihXogIAW nwl gl krdy
hoey)?”
ies prkwr donW pqI Aqy pqnI dy, iek iek krky
swry point address kIqy jw skdy hn[
ieh krx nwl ienswP dI feeling AwvygI Bwv jo pqI-pqnI ivckwr kuJ misunderstandings hn auh dUr ho jwxgIAW[ jy ivcolw hovy hI nW (ijs krky Awm isK
couples Aj tu`t rhy hn) qW ieh sB kuJ dsxw hI
iks nMU hY ikau ik suxn vwlw hI koeI hY nhI qy pqI pqnI Awps ivc qW pihlW qoN
hI bol nhI rhy qy qlwk vl vD rhy hn!
ieh hY mihmw ivcoly dI!
3)
qIsrw qy bhuq hI
Aihm gux ivcoly dw (Xw ivcoligrI kr rhI team dw) ieh hY ik sB ipAwr vwly hox[ ijQy ivcoly, GrylU pDr qy
ienswP dI pUrqI krx dy kwbl hox auQy ipAwr krnw, hsdy hsdy donW nMU iekiTAW
krnW, ieh vI ivcoligrI krn leI AqI zrUrI hY[ ijQy bxdw ienswP dyxw idvwauxw hY,
auQy ieh gl nW BulI jwvy ik ieh islislw koeI do pwrtIAW ivc kyvl ienswP dw hI nhI
hY sgoN iek prvwrk mhOl hox krky, pqI-pqnI dw ieh irSqw ipAwr qy KVHw hY[
ivcoly jdoN ipAwr vMFxgy, Awpxy Awp sihj suBwie hI ipAwr dI KuSbU pqI pqnI
gRihx krdy hoey Awpxy Asl irSqy Aqy aus dy ipAwr nMU pihcwnx dy kwbl ho jwxgy
Aqy koeI kwrn nhI ik muV pRym ipAwr nwl iekTy nw ho jwx!
ieh hn swfI smJ ivc ivcoilAW dy gux
Aqy zrUrI SrqW[ jo auprokq 3 guxW Aqy ivcoligrI dIAW SrqW nMU inBwA skdw hY,
auh iek cMgw ivcolw swbq hovygw! qlwk ivcoligrI krn nwl bhuq sohxy qy sPl qrIky
nwl roky jw skdy hn!
kuJ ku hor point swfy smJ ivc Awey hn[ auh vI swJy kr leIey jI:
1)
ivcoligrI kr rhI team ivc donoN BYxW Aqy vIr hox[ Dwrmk SbdwvlI ivc isMG/ isMGxIAW
kih skdy hW[ ies nwl donW iDrW, Bwv pqI Aqy pqnI dIAW hr iksm dIAW glW swJIAW
kIqIAW Aqy sulJweIAW jw skdIAW hn[ ies nwl iek mukMml Aqy loVINdw mhOl Awpxy
Awp bx jwvygw[
2) ikqy gl bwq ivc loV pvy XW koeI AYsI siQqI bx jwvy ik pqI XW
pqnI ivcoilAW dI iekiTAW krn dI gl nMU prvwx hI nw krx XW Pyr ivcoilAw dw ivc
Awaux hI prvwx nw krn, Bwv ik qlwk vl vDx vl p`kw hI PYslw, ibnW hL liBAW jW
aus pRqI Xqn kIiqAW, kr lYx qW AYsI siQqI ivc pqI XW pqnI jo qlwk vl vDx dw
pUrw PYslw krI bYTw hY aus nMU ieh kihxw auicq qy FukvW hovygw ik “cMgw bIbwjI/
cMgw vIr jIE, jy qusI gurU swihb jI dI hzUrI ivc AnMd kwrn krvw ky Aj qlwk vl
vD rhy ho qW Pyr qusI sRI gurU gRMQ
swihb jI mhwrwj dy dyxdwr ho ijnHW dI hzUrI ivc qusI iksy smyN Awpxy jIvn swQI
nwl swQ inBwaux dw pRx ilAw sI”!
swfI smJ Aqy isdk ieh kihMdw hY ik jdoN ieh gl khI jwvygI qW zrUr Awpxw rMg
ivKwvygI Aqy aunHW dy mn nMU muV ivcwrn dI pRyrnw dyvygI Aqy qlwk vl vDx qoN
rokygI[
3)
isK jgq ivc AYsy marriage
reconciliation group bxny cwhIdy hn[ ienHW dw
gurm`q XW gurmuKI nwm “AnMd kwrj pRoVqw grup”, “qlwk- rok grup”, “ ivAwh mzbUq
kro- grup!”, Awid AnykW nwm rKy jw skdy hn[
Aj loV hY ik ijQy ijQy isK prvwr vsdy hn, vD cV ky ieh loV muqwbk syvw
dw pRbMD hovy[ ijQy ijQy vI loV smJI jwvy, auQy auQy ipAwr nwl sMprk krky, BYxW
/ vIrW dw sQwnk grup syvw ivc hwzr ho ky gurU swihb jI dIAW KuSIAW pRwpq kr
skdw hY Aqy Awpxy hI isK BrwvW dy AnMd kwrjW nMU qlwk vl ruVy jwx qoN rok skdw
hY!
4)
AnMd kwrjW ivc G`t qoN
G`t A`Dy GMty dw pRogrwm isiKAw dw vI riKAw jwxw cwhIdw hY ijs ivc gRihsqI jIvn
dy v`K v`K pihlUAW bwry cwnxw pwieAw jwvy Aqy isK Drm ivc qlwk dI AwigAw nW hox
bwry vI spSt rUp ivc ds idqw jwvy[
5)
ieh lyK, dys prdys
ivc AnykW isK prvwrW dy qjribAW qy ADwrq iqAwr kIqw igAw hY Aqy isK jgq dI syvw
ivc, Awaux vwlIAW pIVIAW dI cVdI klw nMU muK rKdy hoey, Ajoky isK prvwrW nMU
qlwk qoN bcwaux ihq, ipAwr nwl isK BweIcwry dy pRym sihq Byt kIqw jWdw hY[
6)
AsI isK vIrW / BYxW
/ prvwrW nMU bynqI krWgy ik ieh lyK Awpxy Awpxy BweIcwrk Kyqr ivc Aqy gurisK
jQybMdIAW nwl vI sWJw krn[ AYsy praupkwrI ivcolw-syvw grup Awp bxwE qy dUsirAw
nMU vI ies syvw ivc Awaux leI auqSwhq kro[
AsI eyku ipqw eyks ky
hm bwirk qU myrw gur hweI ]
hox dw sbUq qW hI dy skdy hW jy iksy joVy nMU qlwk vl vDx qoN rokx dw
auprwlw Aqy Xqn krIey[
7)
swry ies Xqn Aqy concept nMU documentation rwhI hor suKwlw vI bxwieAw jw skdw hY[ PDF bxw ky sB inSkwm volunteers nMU training idqI jw skdI hY ik
ies swry syvw ivc ikvy ikvy kMm krnw hY[
8)
AwE, ieh Ardws vI
krIey ik isK jgq ivcoN gurU swihb ikrpw krky qlwk vrgI smwjk burweI dUr kr dyx!
sRI gurU Amrdws swihb scy pwqSwh jI dw Purmwn hY:
jy loVih vru bwlVIey qw gur crxI icqu lwey
rwm ]
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AsI aumId krdy hW ik ieh lyK swfy BweIcwry
ivcoN gurm`q dy cwnx Anuswr AnMd kwrjW dI pivqrqw nMU mzbUq bxwaux ivc shweI
hovygw Aqy isK Drm ivcoN qlwk vrgIAW lwhnqW nMU bwhr kFx ivc Awpxw Xogdwn
pwvygw!
vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw vwihgurU jI kI Pqih]
Awp dw SuB-icMqk,
kulbIr isMG
16 jUn, 2016
(ies lyK ivc Font, GurbaniLipi vriqAw igAw hY)
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